I (M20) recently asked this girl (F23) to go golfing with me tomorrow and she said yes (99% sure this is a date; we’ve been very flirty in person and over the phone, plus I’ve heard from coworkers that the feelings are mutual). We both work as cart attendants at a golf course, so I figured golfing together would be a perfect idea for a first date. I’m playing the front 9 with the head golf pro in the morning, and she’s coming for the back 9.
She insists that she’s a terrible golfer but is eager to learn. I’m a bogey golfer myself, so I’m no expert. I think she expects me to teach her some basics about the game, and I’m looking forward to it. I want to make sure it’s not just a ‘mini lesson’ since I’m aiming for a relaxed outing to get to know each other better.
Any advice on balancing the golfing and dating aspects? I tend to be awkward, especially with intimacy around someone new. Thanks in advance for any suggestions!
P.S. If she’s reading this hey K, it’s B. I really like you!
Edit: Thanks for all the hilarious replies; they’re easing my nerves! I’m going to ditch the serious golfing mindset. I’ll update you after the date. Wish me luck!
Kai said:
Have fun. Avoid any advice. Play a scramble! And under no circumstances criticize her.
Scramble is a great idea! If she asks for any advice, just use it as an excuse for a 2nd date. Say you never want to give any swing tips on the course. Invite her to the range later to ‘work on her swing.’
Be sure to enforce the rules strictly. Don’t want any woman who doesn’t respect the game. Lifts her ball without marking it? 1 stroke penalty. Tees off in front of the tee markers? 2 strokes.
My first time out with a beginner was tough. After two holes, she decided to ride in the cart and enjoy the weather. It ended up as a good outing enjoying each other’s company.
Haha, I did this with my now wife. She was a total beginner, and I’ve been playing forever. We had a blast, ended with dinner. Ironically, she didn’t catch the golf bug, and we haven’t been since.